The importance of engaged fatheringAugust 31, 2020
With Father’s Day upon us, we’d like to take this opportunity to celebrate Dads of all kinds – single dads, stepdads, working dads, granddads, stay-at-home dads and all other father figures.
The effect fatherhood has on a child’s development and wellbeing is a proven phenomenon, with many studies highlighting the importance of engaged fathering. The impact is multi-faceted and far-reaching – kids that are raised with a committed dad or male role model are less likely to end up in jail or drop out of school, and more likely to have high-paying jobs and stable relationships.
Let’s investigate what science says about fatherhood and what an engaged father looks like.
Happy dad, happy life
Researchers have examined for decades the impact of engaged fathering. And while those that grow up without a father figure present can absolutely go on to live happy, rewarding, healthy lives, the correlations between positive personality traits and wellbeing and quality fathering are astounding.
- Overall, more than eight out of 10 studies investigating the link between father involvement and child happiness published since 1980 found notable associations between positive fathering and offspring wellbeing.
- Child psychologist Dr Kyle Pruett found that nurturing fatherly care is linked to pro-social behaviour in both girls and boys.
- A 26-year-long study discovered that father involvement is the number one factor in a child’s development of empathy. Children that spent more quality time with their fathers became more compassionate adults.
What does an engaged father look like?
There is no debating the importance of the father’s role in childhood development, with positive impacts influencing decision making and outcomes throughout a child’s life. But what does an engaged dad actually look like in practice?
First, he shows up. Fathers that live with their children, attend important events, and make time for one-on-one interaction are likely to have a more positive effect than unengaged fathers.
This doesn’t mean kids that live apart from their dads are unable to benefit from fatherly involvement. Absent fathers can phone, write letters, and visit their children in an effort to develop a close and beneficial relationship.
If a father cannot engage with their child to the extent they would like to, experts suggest that the idea of “buying love” isn’t such a bad one. Financial support from a father can lead to positive outcomes for the child.
It’s worth noting that the quantity of time a father spends with their child isn’t the only contributing factor. Quality is crucial, too. Engaged fathers are those that are interested in the child’s life and are warm and non-judgemental. Insulting, cold, and dismissive fatherly interactions can lead to adverse outcomes.
In celebration of single fathers
Across the board, society places significant emphasis on motherhood, with many mums citing extreme pressure to be perfect. The importance of mothering is generally well understood. The importance of fathering, on the other hand, not so much. This can lead to insecurity in single-dad homes.
However, an analysis of more than 100 studies on the relationships between parents and children found that the presence of a loving father is just as important to a child’s wellbeing, social behaviour, and academic success as a loving mother. Some researchers suggest that a nurturing father is more critical to the development of positive traits and outcomes in children.
Either way, single fathers are doing incredible work.
Appreciating all Dads
Father’s Day is a time to celebrate the father figures in our own lives and recognise just how vital their role is. So, here’s to all the different types of Dads!
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